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This Lesson Was Supposed To Happen

I couldn’t believe it! It was no more than about an hour after I sent my Blog Gazette Issue 20 to you about how not to take others seriously that it happened.

She sent me an email and asked me to take her off the subscriber list. Hey, anyone can unscribe for pete’s sake! Simply hit the link at the end of the ezine and unsubscribe - how tough is that?

But this person wanted me to know it - without explanation.

I have to admit, it didn’t rest well with me - I went instantly into defending my content, defending myself and thinking kaka thoughts about her.

And then I caught myself and realized something. This was the lesson. This was supposed to happen to test me!

So… here’s my lesson given and lesson learned:

Most of the time I have no thoughts of resistance when I am faced with people who don’t agree with me.

I speak professionally and I’m not all that concerned about trying to get people to like me. In fact as a former junior high school teacher I got a lot of sideways glances and rolling eyes - those 13 year olds could be challenging.

Not everyone could teach junior high, yet I loved it. So why did this person bother me?

I know from my years of research and “living” that trying to figure out how to get others to approve of you or like you is definately not a good strategy because the more you NEED others to like you the less they will like you.

You see there’s a big difference between NEED and want. The more you NEED, the more things and people stay away from you.

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But let me get back to what I did to stop feeling bad.

So here’s what I did:

I “recognized” that I was feeling bad.

(even if this doesn’t make sense to you, hang in there) I understood that this “feel bad” vibration REPELS what I want. In defending myself, what I wanted (for her not to tell me she wanted to unsubscribe!) is not a want - it’s a need that comes with the expectation of something outside of myself making me happy.

I recognize that this “feel bad” imagery sends a signal to the Universe that I want to be sad. Now that’s not good.

So here’s what else I did: (taken from Lynne Grabhorn’s “Excuse Me Your Life Is Waiting.” You may already know this process.

Change your mental picture and it changes how you feel. Everytime you feel the negative feeling, “flip switch!” is what Lynne says. Change the mental picture. You do this over and over and the bad feeling gets replaced with a good feeling.

Focus on what you do want. Picture what you want when you speak. Use your imagination. Besides, you’re using that imagination when you think bad thoughts, so flip switch it into good thoughts and feelings instead.

Get back to where you were before - and take a new step out to succeed. Now you’re sending positive energy to the universe, to yourself and to “that” person.

How about you? Have you had reason to switch out of feeling bad sooner than later?

Here’s why else it’s important to “flip switch” out of negative feelings: (the law of attaction):

If you’re happy even if you don’t yet have what you want - then you are attracting it to you.

If you’re unhappy because you don’t yet have what you NEED - then you are repelling it.

Flip Switch and get back to what you want.

great job today!

Patricia

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